The “I’m-not-that-smart”-type of self-esteem is so often met with a shrug or a laugh. The problem with this attitude is that it can actually cause you to feel more stupid than smart. When you have a high tolerance for stupidity, it can cause you to become less intelligent than you already are.
Self-esteem can be a complicated thing. Too often we think that if we don’t have a high self-esteem, then we aren’t smart. But this is far from true. Self-esteem is just a normal, healthy emotion that is a good thing to have. It’s like having a normal, healthy temperature or a normal blood pressure. Just because you feel good about yourself doesn’t mean that you are stupid.
Self-esteem may come from a lot of different things, but the most important is that it stems from your own confidence. I know that I have a lot of confidence in myself, but I also know that I dont need to be super confident in my own abilities. That is just a normal way to feel. I can always change, but I also can always still be stupid.
Yes, this is a normal thing. A lot of people are afraid to give themselves a chance to learn new things. They fear that they might not have the skills they need to succeed. That they might not be enough of a ‘proper’ person.
The fear of being unable to succeed is a common enough reality. It can be really debilitating. It can be paralyzing. But there is a real difference between being afraid to learn and being afraid to fail.
Most people think they have to take classes or acquire special skills to begin working in the world of startups. This isn’t true. Just like with anything else, you can learn any skills you need to succeed. In fact, the entire point of learning anything is to learn it. The difference is that you have to take the steps necessary to be able to do that.
Learning is not something that you do out of a desire to get a better job, do better at something, or get paid more. It is something that you do because you have to learn it. It is a process that will take time, practice, and effort. Learning anything is not a simple process. You need to be willing to work for it.
The point here is so that you can be a good person. You can’t be a good person if you don’t have the skills that you need to be successful. Some skills are simple, like knowing how to use a computer. Other skills are more sophisticated such as learning how to do math. Learning any skill you need to succeed will take time and practice. Don’t expect to learn everything in a day, or even a few hours.
Learning anything takes time and effort, and you can only get as far as you work at it. A child learning how to drive is learning how to drive, but it is not learning how to do the driving. It is learning how to drive in the right way. And then you need to be willing to work at it.
You can only do what you are willing to do. You can’t force yourself to do something you don’t want to do. And you shouldn’t.